Your heart is pounding, and then leaps from your chest as the leather fold of a riding crop slaps your pussy. Another slap follows and shockwaves of pleasure race from the tips of your fingers all the way down to your toes. A third slap follows, then a forth. With each strike your body jumps uncontrollably. Euphoria takes control of your thoughts and emotions as you feel an orgasm building. Another strike from the crop, then another... and another. You feel your orgasm build with each assault to your delicate flesh until your body can no longer resist.

The orgasm rushes over you, your muscles tighten as your body quakes with pleasure. Your thoughts and reason are carried away to a world of sexual bliss, a world dedicated only to the fulfillment of your most decadent desires as your orgasm takes complete control of your senses.

You are lost.

Time passes, how much you can not tell, but your thoughts and emotions return to reality. The riding crop has stopped and all is quiet.

Your body is tingling, every nerve is on edge when you feel something brushes against your nipple.

Something soft. Something gentle.

Something that will start your next journey into ecstasy...



Bondage can be a dark world filled with suspense and danger where your heart beats hard in your chest from the excitement of not knowing what's going to happen next, or a world of light filled with new sensations of sexual pleasures. Bondage is a world of fantasy, a world of erotic imagination. A world you create where you can cast all of your inhibitions to the wind and let sexual pleasure, lust and ecstasy be your guide!

Spicing up your sex life with playful bondage is easy. You can simply use it as a means of foreplay, or spend the day playing out a kinky fantasy. Many people that have wanted to try playing out a fantasy but weren't sure how to get started have used bondage as a way to get used to fantasy role play and other sex games.

If you're not experienced in role play, it can be a lot easier to start out by experimenting with bondage. Being tied up and 'letting things happen' can be a lot easier than trying to play out an entire fantasy.

If you're already experienced in fantasy and role play, and an experienced BDSM Dom, Domme or sub, you know this world, and you relish in its pleasures.

If you're new or curious about bondage and thinking about buying your first blindfold, wrist restraints and maybe some nipple clamps and a whip or paddle,  you're in for the most incredible experience of your life!



What's the difference between BDSM and Playful Bondage?

Bondage, Light Bondage, Bondage Play, Playful Bondage, Bondage & Discipline, B&D, S&M, BDSM, Sadism & Masochism, D&s, Fetish... while many people group all of these terms together, there are some major differences between them.

The term 'Bondage' comes from the Anglo-Norman Middle English word bonde (serf) and literally means "The state of one who is bound as a slave or serf". But the term bondage has become so closely associated with sex that dictionaries also include the definition of bondage as "A sexual practice in which one partner is tied or chained up". [1]

The letters BDSM stand for "Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism." By their very definitions, the terms Discipline, Sadism and Masochism means there is some aspect of pain and punishment, but bondage doesn't have to include any kind of pain or discipline.

Asking what's the difference is between BDSM and Playful Bondage is like asking what's the difference between Kinky & Perverted.

Kinky is when you use a feather...  Perverted is when you use the whole chicken!

The same type of difference can be applied to playful bondage versus hardcore BDSM. Having your wrists and ankles restrained before or during sex is still bondage, but it doesn't mean you have to be whipped, paddled, flogged or have pain inflicted in any way.

BDSM is a culture, or sub culture, and the BDSM community has very strict rules when it comes to disciplining or inflicting pain on a sub. Once considered by psychiatrists as pathologic, the BDSM culture and practices remains intertwined with prejudices, clichés and stereotypes. Even today there are some uninformed people who automatically associate BDSM with witchcraft, the occult, and even devil worship. They see a fictional movie on television about a satanic cult that sacrifices a virgin bound to an alter, then see a picture of a sub bound in a BDSM scene, and automatically assume the two are connected. Living out a dark fantasy can be fun, and it's true that many of the bondage scenes do involve a dungeon or a dark setting, but there's nothing 'evil', 'dark', 'satanic' or 'occult related' about it.

When the term Bondage & Discipline or the letters B&D are used, it usually refers to BDSM, but some people like to differentiate between the two because there are no aspects of sadism or masochism involved [2].  When the initials B&D are used there is typically some level of pain involved as 'discipline'.  Because of this, the terms 'Bondage', 'Playful Bondage', 'Bondage Play', or 'Bondage Games' are often used instead of BDSM or B&D to help describe bondage that doesn't involve pain.

While all of this may seem confusing, and unnecessary, using terms like 'Playful Bondage' or 'Bondage Games' make some people that are new to bondage feel more comfortable talking about it.


Playful Bondage doesn't have to be as strict or defined.

The majority of people that integrate bondage into their sex lives probably aren't that heavy into the BDSM lifestyle, they just enjoy adding a little sense of danger or anticipation in their sex life with a little 'playful bondage' as a way to increase sexual tension.  Pain or discipline is an option, and is usually limited to spankings, mild flogging, the use of nipple clamps, some nipple squeezing and tugging, and some mild pussy whipping. Playful bondage is usually practiced between couples that are in a long term or committed relationship, so the safety rules are usually more subjective and trust based.

While many people automatically relate being spanked or whipped as discipline, this isn't necessarily the case.  Many people simply enjoy the sensation of being spanked or whipped, and it's included in their bondage play as a form of sexual stimulation rather than a form of discipline.  The term discipline can be very subjective both in and out of the BDSM community, but especially between couples.  If you just enjoy a little pain in your sexual fun, but not in the aspect of actually being disciplined, the term doesn't have to be quite so narrow.  Discipline can be a light or heavy spanking just for being a "Bad Girl' or "Bad Boy" with no specific reason you were bad.  It's just fun and doesn't require the rules or control behavior of the BDSM community.



How common is BDSM or bondage play?

Light or playful bondage as foreplay is actually more common than most people might think, and it's a very effective means of providing sexual stimulation and sexual tension for both parties.  Estimation on the overall percentage of BDSM related sexual behavior ranges from 5 to 25 percent, depending on the scientific objectives. The 5% is probably more representative of those heavily involved in the BDSM community, while the 25% would more than likely represent individuals or couples that enjoy some form of light bondage or bondage play in their relationship, or relationships if they aren't in a monogamous relationship. [3]



The difference between BDSM and Fetish

All too often people see the word fetish and automatically associate it with BDSM. This is not the case. While many people consider bondage  to be a fetish, there are dozens, if not hundreds of other fetishes.

A fetish, as it relates to sex, is defined as " Something, such as a material object or a nonsexual part of the body, that arouses sexual desire and may become necessary for sexual gratification." [4]  Common fetishes are balloons, feet, stockings or pantyhose, vampires, horror movies... or anything that is typically considered 'non-sexual' that creates feelings of sexual stimulation.

Calling bondage a fetish makes some people uncomfortable with the whole idea of bondage, but there' no reason for this type of apprehension.  The reason bondage can be defined as a fetish doesn't mean it's an illness of any kind.  It simply means under normal circumstances, objects like handcuffs, paddles, rope, etc. are material objects that aren't designed to cause or increase sexual stimulation as opposed to objects like a vibrator, a cock ring, nipple clamps or other sex toys that are specifically designed to increase sexual pleasure.

Another type of fetish can include cartoons, comics or drawings, especially ones of nude characters or characters having sex. While it's true these types of drawings are suppose to be sexually stimulating (which is contrary to the definition of a fetish), they can fall into the definition of a fetish if a person becomes so fixated on them they are more sexually aroused by a drawing than they are by an actual human being.

As the old saying goes, "one man's meat is another man's poison", so while we definitely try to cater to particular legal fetishes by providing links to galleries and videos relating to certain fetishes, we aren't going to get into any kind of discussion or offer our opinions about whether any particular fetish is good or bad, right or wrong.  We will simply leave your particular fetish up to you.

bond·age (bndj) n.
1. The state of one who is bound as a slave or serf.
2. A state of subjection to a force, power, or influence.
3. The practice of being physically restrained, as with cords or handcuffs, as a means of attaining sexual gratification.
4. Villeinage.
[Middle English, from Anglo-Norman, from Middle English bonde, serf, from Old English bnda, husbandman, from Old Norse bndi, present participle of ba, to live; see bheu- in Indo-European roots.]
The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2009. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.

bondage - Noun
1. a sexual practice in which one partner is tied or chained up
2. slavery
3. subjection to some influence or duty
Collins Essential English Dictionary 2nd Edition 2006 © HarperCollins Publishers 2004, 2006

[3] The acronym BDSM includes psychological and physiological facets:

Bondage & Discipline (B&D)
Domination & Submission (D&S)
Sadism & Masochism (or Sadomasochism) (S&M)
This model for differentiating among these three aspects of BDSM is increasingly used in literature today. Nevertheless, it is only an attempt at phenomenological differentiation. Individual tastes and preferences in the area of sexuality may overlap among these areas, which are discussed separately here.

The development of the term BDSM is complex. Originally "Sadism" and "Masochism" were purely technical terms for psychological features, which were classified as psychological illness. The terms are derived from the names of the Marquis de Sade and Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, based on the content of the authors' works. The term Sadomasochism is derived from the words sadism and masochism. In the context of consensual sexual activities, sadism and masochism are not strictly accurate terms; there is a significant difference from the medical or psychological usage of both terms. Sadomasochism refers to the physical aspects of BDSM. Sadism describes sexual pleasure derived by inflicting pain, degradation, or humiliation on another person. On the other hand, the masochist enjoys being bound, spanked or suffering within the consensual scenario.

Sadomasochists do not enjoy causing or receiving pain in other situations e.g. accidental injury, medical procedures.  Discipline often incorporates sadomasochistic aspects. In contrast to Discipline, flagellation plays a less important role in sadomasochism, and there are a wide variety of other practices used in order to inflict pain. Sadomasochism is practiced in isolation relatively rarely; an amalgam of various aspects of BDSM is more common.  On a physical level, BDSM is partly connected to the intentional infliction of physical pain, suffering and other intense sensations. BDSM practitioners often compare the effects induced by the resulting endorphins to the so-called "runner’s high" or to the afterglow of orgasm..

[3] How common is BDSM & bondage play.

BDSM is practiced in all social strata and is common in both heterosexual and homosexual men and women in varied occurrences and intensities.[1] [2] The spectrum ranges from couples playing "tie-me-up-games" with no connections to the BDSM subculture in their homes, and without any awareness of the concept of BDSM, to public scenes on St. Andrew's crosses at large events such as the Folsom Fairs.

A non-representative survey on the sexual behavior of American students published in 1997 and based on questionnaires had a response rate of about 89%. It results showed 15% of openly homosexual males, 21% of openly lesbian and female bisexual students, 11% of the male and 9% of the female heterosexual students committed to BDSM related fantasies. In all groups the level of practical BDSM experiences varied about 6%. Within the group of openly female bisexuals and lesbians the quote was significantly higher, at 21%. Independent of their sexual orientation, about 12% of all questioned students, 16% of the female homosexual and bisexuals and 8% of the male heterosexuals expressed an interest in spanking. Experience with this sexual behavior was indicated by 30% of male heterosexuals, 33% of female bisexuals and lesbians, and 24% of the male homsexual and bisexual men and female heterosexual women.[3] Even if this study were not considered representative, other surveys indicate similar dimensions in a differing target groups.[4][5][6]

In a representative study published in 1999 by the German Institut für rationale Psychologie, about two thirds of the interviewed women stated a desire to be at the mercy of their sexual partners from time to time. 69% admitted to fantasies dealing with sexual submissiveness, 42% stated interest in explicit BDSM techniques, and 25% in Bondage.[7]

A 1976 study in the general U.S. population suggests three percent have had positive experiences with Bondage or master-slave role playing. Overall 12% of the interviewed females and 18% of the males were willing to try it.[8][9]

A 1990 Kinsey Institute report stated that 5% to 10% of Americans occasionally engage in sexual activities related to BDSM. 11% of men and 17% of women reported trying bondage.[10][11]

According to a 2005 survey of 317.000 people in 41 countries, about 20% of the surveyed people have at least once used masks, blindfolds or other bondage utilities, and 5% explicitly connected themselves with sadomasochism.[12] In 2004, 19% mentioned spanking as one of their practices and 22% confirmed the use of blindfolds and/or handcuffs.[13] Some BDSM-accessories, like the Ring of O, have been integrated into the jewelry collections of internationally well known designers like Calvin Klein.

1. For details on the role of women in sadomasochistic subculture compare e.g. Breslow et al On the Prevalence and Roles of Females in the Sadomasochistic Subculture: Report of an Empirical Study. Archives of Sexual Behaviour 14/1985, P. 303-17. In Thomas S. Weinberg: S&M – Studies in Dominance and Submission, (Ed.), Prometheus Books, New York, 1995 ISBN 0-8797-5-978-X
2. see e.g. Gloria G. Brame, BDSM/Fetish Sex: Overview and Study, online gloria-brame.com
3. a b c Elliott, Leland / Brantley, Cynthia, Sex on Campus, 1997, Random House, New York
4. Brokmann, Angela: Macht und Erotik, 1996, Sexologisches Institut e.V. Hamburg, Hamburg (German)
6. Person, Ethel S. / Terestman, Nettie / Myers, Wayne A. / Goldberg, Eugene L. / Salvadori, Carol: Gender differences in sexual behaviors and fantasies in a college population, 1989, in: Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, Bd. 15, No. 3, 1989, P. 187–198
6. Breslow, Norman: SM Research Report, v1.1, 1999
7. see Arne Hoffmann, Lexikon der Tabubrüche, Schwarzkopf&Schwarzkopf, 2003, ISBN 3896025171 (German)
8. "What's Really Happening on Campus", Playboy October 1976, S. 128-131, 160-164, 169. (see Charles Moser / Eugene E. Levitt: An Exploratory-Descriptive Study of a Sadomasochistically Oriented Sample, in Journal of Sex Research, Vol. 23, 1987, P. 322-337.)
9. see Thomas S. Weinberg (Ed.): S&M - Studies in Dominance and Submission, Prometheus Books, New York 1995, ISBN-10: 087975978X
10. Walter Lowe: The Playboy Readers' Sex Survey. 1983.
11. Based on the 1983 "Playboy Readers Sex Survey" by Walter Lowe. kinseyinstitute.org
12. Durex Global Sex Survey 2005, P.15 Online Durex Global Sex Survey 2005
13. Durex Global Sex Survey 2004, P.14 Online Durex Global Sex Survey 2004

[4] Fetish

fet·ish also fet·ich (ftsh, ftsh) n.
1. An object that is believed to have magical or spiritual powers, especially such an object associated with animistic or shamanistic religious practices.
2. An object of unreasonably excessive attention or reverence: made a fetish of punctuality.
3. Something, such as a material object or a nonsexual part of the body, that arouses sexual desire and may become necessary for sexual gratification.
4. An abnormally obsessive preoccupation or attachment; a fixation.
[French fétiche, from Portuguese feitiço, artificial, charm, from Latin factcius, artificial; see factitious.]
The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2009. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.


fetish - Noun
1. a. a form of behaviour in which a person derives sexual satisfaction from handling an object b. any object that is involved in such behaviour
2. any object, activity, etc., to which one is excessively devoted: cleanliness is almost a fetish with her
3. an object that is believed to have magical powers [Portuguese feitiço sorcery]
fetishism n - fetishist n
Collins Essential English Dictionary 2nd Edition 2006 © HarperCollins Publishers 2004, 2006


fetish : fe·tish
Variant(s): also fe·tich \ˈfe-tish also ˈfē-\
Function: noun
Etymology: French & Portuguese; French fétiche, from Portuguese feitiço, from feitiço artificial, false, from Latin facticius factitious. Date: 1613
1 a : an object (as a small stone carving of an animal) believed to have magical power to protect or aid its owner; broadly : a material object regarded with superstitious or extravagant trust or reverence b : an object of irrational reverence or obsessive devotion : prepossession c : an object or bodily part whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression
2 : a rite or cult of fetish worshipers
3 : fixation
Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary. 2009.

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